In the 1940s Anais Nin wrote pornographic stories for an anonymous “collector” who paid her $1 a page. Many of these were eventually published as “Delta of Venus,” an erotic anthology that is still widely regarded as a very sensual, yet literary work. The collector would respond to the stories she sent him with demands for less poetry and more sex. In her response, she mentions the passion that is lost by focusing purely on explicit sex – making a point that is still very valid today.
“Dear Collector: We hate you. Sex loses all its power and magic when it becomes explicit, mechanical, overdone, when it becomes a mechanistic obsession. It becomes a bore. You have taught us more than anyone I know how wrong it is not to mix it with emotion, hunger, desire, lust, whims, caprices, personal ties, deeper relationships that change its colour, flavour, rhythms, intensities.
You do not know what you are missing by your microscopic examination of sexual activity to the exclusion of aspects which are the fuel that ignites it. Intellectual, imaginative, romantic, emotional. This is what gives sex its surprising textures, its subtle transformations, its aphrodisiac elements. You are shrinking your world of sensations. You are withering it, starving it, draining its blood.
If you nourished your sexual life with all the excitements and adventures which love injects into sensuality, you would be the most potent man in the world. The source of sexual power is curiosity, passion. You are watching its little flame die of asphyxiation. Sex does not thrive on monotony. Without feeling, inventions, moods, no surprises in bed. Sex must be mixed with tears, laughter, words, promises, scenes, jealousy, envy, all the spices of fear, foreign travel, new faces, novels, stories, dreams, fantasies, music, dancing, opium, wine.
How much do you lose by this periscope at the tip of your sex, when you could enjoy a harem of distinct and never-repeated wonders? No two hairs alike, but you will not let us waste words on a description of hair; no two odours, but if we expand on this you cry Cut the poetry. No two skins with the same texture, and never the same light, temperature, shadows, never the same gesture; for a lover, when he is aroused by true love, can run the gamut of centuries of love lore. What a range, what changes of age, what variations of maturity and innocence, perversity and art…
We have sat around for hours and wondered how you look. If you have closed your senses upon silk, light, colour, odour, character, temperament, you must be by now completely shrivelled up. There are so many minor senses, all running like tributaries into the mainstream of sex, nourishing it. Only the united beat of sex and heart together can create ecstasy.”
We’ve come across a couple of writing opportunities worth sharing with the smut-artists among us.
Online magazine, Every Night Erotica publishes a sexy short story daily and are looking for submissions of your sexy fantasies within a limit of 2000 words.
All genres of erotica will be accepted and while we’re well aware that reality stimulates creativity we are only looking for your fictional tales. Also please note that Every Night Erotica will only accept consensual sex stories and is meant for a mature audience, 18years+.
This is a great promotional opportunity for your blog or website and Every Night Erotica also offers a token amount of compensation at this stage. Visit the website for further guidelines and to submit your erotic tales.
Laura Antoniou, author of the well known Marketplace series of erotic novels is inviting submissions to various anthologies she has in the works. Laura began her writing career in the 1980?s back when she edited the groundbreaking “Leatherwomen” anthologies.
It’s twenty years since I started to collect stories for the original Leatherwomen, and anthologies have refused to die. With the explosion of e-book publishers of erotica, there has never been a better time to get your stories out into the world – and after twenty years, I’m eager to collect all sorts of delicious smut. From sweet and romantic to edgy and kinky, show me what you’ve got!
She’s looking for stories between 3000-7000 words long, which contain sex. “Sex is defined as any activity that increases the potential for orgasm; so by all means do not limit yourself there.” The four anthologies are open to various kinks, couplings or groupings, orientations and gender expressions.
The Best of Leatherwomen: Deadline – Dec 31, 2011
Leatherwomen 2012 – Still Kicking: Deadline – January 31, 2012
Hot Butches/Hot Femmes: Deadline – December 31, 2011
No Safewords – A Marketplace Collection: Deadline – February 28, 2012
For detailed submission guidelines and requirements please visit Laura’s website.
Rori of Between My Sheets has compiled her fourth annual list of her top 100 sex bloggers. This list is of her own personal favorites, based on community nominations. A few of the writers featured on Sonic Erotica have made it in there, including our current guest poster Lady Grinning Soul – and regularly featured Guy New York took out position number one! I think she does well to limit it to just 100! Now I’ve got hours of reading ahead of me with plenty of unfamiliar blogs to discover.
On until Saturday Nov 19th in Melbourne is ‘The Fellatio Monologues’ a performance about love, life and intimacy. The five monologues are written and directed by Scott Majors and performed by Australian cast members from well-known local television shows.
‘The Fellatio Monologues’ explores the differences between men and woman and also takes a look at how sometimes we are not always thinking about the job at hand. Are we always honest with ourselves, and those around us? Can an intimate shared moment be the catalyst for a break-up or a reconciliation? And what is actually going through your head on a one-night stand? Is it really the act you are performing?
Still not convinced? Read Claire Pickering’s review.
While you could be forgiven for thinking this show is essentially about penis jokes, Major’s aim in writing this piece is to address a more serious side of relationships. The bonus to this production is that it not only gives you permission to laugh out loud, but also to consider those awkward sexual issues within the relative anonymity and safety of your comfortable theatre seat.
Most interesting for me was how the audience unwittingly revealed their experiences and secrets in the moments when they laughed. In particular, one gentleman behind me gave a fascinating insight into his own life journey and sexual adventures. You could almost hear the collective audience snigger of: ‘Oh, you’ve done that too!’
Remaining shows:
Tues Nov 15 – Sat Nov 19
8pm
Revolt Melbourne
12 Elizabeth Street Kensington VIC
Another sexy Melbourne event this week is ‘Erotic Fan Fiction’, live readings at the Wheeler Centre
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